Learning to Ask for Help


“I do it.” “I do it myself.”  

Those of you with toddlers will no doubt recognize this anthem for the independent.   My adult version of this has many forms.  “If it’s going to get done right, I have to be the one to do it.” “I should be able to figure this out for myself.” “No one else can do this.  I have to be the one to do this.”

Sound familiar?

I’m an entrepreneur and a creative person.  Full of ideas.  Full of possibility.  And up until the last few years, I was full of false beliefs that I needed to be everyone to everybody all on my own.

Here’s what I know for sure… when I got clear about my strengths, took a look around and cultivated the necessary resources and understood my limitations, I moved forward, quickly.  Learning to ask for help was not easy for me. It required lots of practice AND now has become a practice I lean on to allow me to be my best and encourage others to be their best! Win. Win.

  1. Know Your Strengths.  When I started acknowledging the things I was good at and stopped expecting myself to be good at everything, something amazing happened.  I was able to take all that energy and effort and put it towards something that filled me with joy and allowed me to be of the highest service to myself and others!  
  2. Know Your Resources.  Often we are standing in our own acre of diamonds.  There’s never been an easier time in history to gain new knowledge, skills & resources.  It’s as easy as a few conversations, a few clicks and a few moments of your time.  Take time to assess the resources you already have in your own library, your own network and your own community.  *Remember, don’t spend a lot of time and energy learning to do something that you’re just not wired to do.  Hire that out.  Ask for help!  
  3. Know Your Limits.  What’s your capacity?  How much is too much? When is enough, enough?  When I became willing to ask myself these questions and then ask for the help I needed, I felt relief and I created a new possibility.  Learn to deliver the enlightened NO.  As I’ve heard from many sources, “No is a complete sentence.”

Let’s talk about you…

  • What are you willing to let go of, to delegate, to admit you don’t do well?  
  • When have you asked for help and enjoyed the feeling of relief that comes with being assisted and supported?  
  • When was the last time you said NO to something so you could say YES to the things that are most important to you?  

I always enjoy your responses.  The questions above aren’t meant to be rhetorical.  Journal about them.  Get curious. And share with me!  I’m always looking for great stories, great examples and an opportunity to be of service to YOU.  



About Whitney Bishop

Whitney Bishop is a Change Agent who creates transformative experiences for leaders who are committed to making a difference in their own lives and in the lives of others. She has designed a proven process to help leaders and their teams elevate their questions, create new possibilities and take deliberate action. Are you ready to discover the power of possibility and experience breakthroughs that will help you have greater impact and influence in the world? Let’s talk.