MAKE 3 CHANGES™ MONDAY MISSION #13: YOUR MINDFUL EVENING
I was leading a roundtable program for a client last week on the topic of endings. I asked them to identify something they could do differently to end their workday that would have the biggest impact on their lives. A woman raised her hand and said, “My workday doesn’t end until I hit the bed and even then, I am thinking about work and clients and everything I have to do.” The rest of the group nodded in recognition. In the dozens of groups like this I lead, this was the first time I’d heard it articulated this way – “My work day doesn’t end.”
It struck a chord.
As a solopreneur, I can get caught up in this habit, too. I am the deliverable in my business. I am the decision maker. I am the chief experience officer. If it is to be it’s up to me. And then I realize that I can use this as an excuse and a busy badge of honor OR I can step up and LEAD in my life and business.
Does this resonate with you?
“Getting to the next level always requires ending something, leaving it behind, and moving on. Growth itself demands that we move on. Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them.”
–Dr. Henry Cloud, Necessary Endings
“Being available to everyone at all times is keeping you from being present for yourself and the moment.”
How do you handle the endings in your life and work? How you end a meeting, a conversation or an email is impacting your productivity, your relationships and your reputation in ways you may not be aware of. How you end your day, if you end your day, is also impacting your productivity, your relationships and your reputation.
What if you created a transition routine between work and home?
What if you created more defined boundaries around when you are available for work and when you are unavailable?
What if you were more deliberate about the way you ended your day?
WHAT WOULD IT LOOK LIKE IF IT WORKED?
What if you created an evening routine that allowed you to transition from work, to be present at home and be prepared for a good night’s rest?
MONDAY MISSION #13: YOUR MINDFUL EVENING
Design and experiment with a mindful evening routine. Write it out or think it through. What would an ideal transition from work to home look like? What would an ideal transition to bedtime look like? What would it mean to you to get a good night’s rest without the phone next to your bed?
You get the idea… create some new possibilities and try a few different things out this week to see what works for you.
MAKE 3 CHANGES™
What 3 Changes are you willing to make for a more mindful evening?
They don’t have to be BIG changes. Here are a few examples for you.
1. Declare your work hours. END your day. Even if this means putting in one final check of your email and phone a couple of hours before bedtime)
2. Set up blocks of time to focus on things OTHER than work, checking email, being connected to a device. (Movement, connecting with family, mealtime, reading/relaxing)
3. Create a bedtime routine and a sleep space that is FREE from electronics, devices and connection. (Read THRIVE by Arianna Huffington for some great ideas for how to prioritize rest and disconnecting at bedtime)
COMMIT TO THE CHANGES YOU WANT TO MAKE.
Write them down! Post them where you’ll see them. Give them your attention.
Ask for accountability. Experience the satisfaction that comes from living by design, not default.
DECLARE & SHARE!
Let me know what you came up with and how you did! Check the facebook page this week for additional resources and inspiration to help you create a more mindful evening. Experience how doing so can make a difference in your life, the lives of those you love and the lives of those you lead!
WHAT IS MAKE 3 CHANGES?
Make 3 Changes™ is a framework designed to help leaders move forward during times of change, challenge and opportunity. For more information about the Make 3 Changes™ framework and how you can use it to navigate changes in your world with more clarity, confidence and commitment, email email@example.com
WHAT ARE THE MAKE 3 CHANGES MONDAY MISSIONS?
These weekly missions are designed to get you thinking differently about various aspects of your life. Each month will feature several missions within a theme, helping you to build awareness, create alignment and take action. It is my hope they provide you with the tools you need to create positive and lasting change in your life, the lives of those you love, those you lead and those you serve. Thanks for being here at the start of it. Always open to feedback about your experience. Let’s have some fun and make some changes!