MAY THEME: BE THE CHANGE
Mission #19: Asking Better Questions – May 9
Mission #20: Mantras for Making Change – May 16
Mission #21: Mindsets for Making Change – May 23
Mission #22: Make 3 Changes™: A Framework for Moving Forward –May 30
MAKE 3 CHANGES™ MONDAY MISSION #19: ASKING BETTER QUESTIONS
We spend a lot of time asking questions that seem productive but that don’t really move us forward. Questions like “Where are my keys?” and “Have you seen my phone?” or “What time do we have to be where today?” are daily distractions that keep us tied to the immediate crisis at hand.
Then there are the go-to questions that keep us focused on the problems we’re facing. “Why can’t I get this right?” “Why can’t they get this right?” “What’s wrong with this picture?” Our assumptions and thoughts around these types of questions keep us looking down instead of up and out.
We spend far too little time asking the questions that could help us to move forward. A few of my favorites are “What if?” “What’s new and good?” and my very favorite – the magic question – “What would it look like if it worked?”
This magic question was gifted to me by a mentor of mine who, when faced with my frequent frustration at our work environment, instead of asking me “What’s wrong?” she asked me “What would it look like if it worked?”
The magic of this question is that the simple act of answering it creates a shift in us. It creates the possibility that the situation could be different. It focuses us on solution. And, it was a far more interesting and enlightening conversation than me coming into her office and complaining for 20 minutes. And, she didn’t have to DO anything. I felt better just having pondered and processed the question.
So today, I give the gift of this magic question to you.
Your MAKE 3 CHANGES™ Monday Mission this week is to ask yourself the MAGIC question. Here are the 3 steps to take:
Step 1: Choose a situation that is unresolved or present for you. Choose an area of your life or work you’d like to improve. Choose a relationship or opportunity that needs your attention. Whatever you choose – go to a quiet place where you can be undisturbed and are free to write or process for about 20 minutes.
Step 2: Ask yourself the magic question – What would it look like if it worked? Don’t censor or limit yourself. Create your ideal possibility. Let yourself daydream, explore the possibilities and options. Don’t worry about all the logistics, just connect to the possibility of things working out the way you’d like them to. I highly recommend writing this down, but if you process best by talking, then say it out loud. Record it and listen to it.
Step 3: Declare it and Share it! There’s power in sharing this with someone else. Don’t share it with someone who will be inclined to shoot this possibility down. Share it with someone who will support you and hold you accountable for bringing it, or something better, to life.
Want to share it with me? GREAT! Send me an email with your answer to the magic question and let me celebrate with you. I’d love to support you and help you bring that possibility to life.
Want me to come inspire a group or team you are part of? GREAT! Let’s talk about that. I have openings in June, September and October to come to your event or workplace to deliver a customized program designed to help you and your team address the changes already happening or that you’re interested in making.
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What is Make 3 Changes™?
Make 3 Changes™ is a framework designed to help leaders move forward during times of change, challenge and opportunity. For more information about the Make 3 Changes™ framework and how you can use it to navigate changes in your world with more clarity, confidence and commitment, email firstname.lastname@example.org.
What are the Make 3 Changes™ Monday Missions?
These weekly missions are designed to get you thinking differently about various aspects of your life. Each month will feature several missions within a theme, helping you to build awareness, create alignment and take action. It is my hope they provide you with the tools you need to create positive and lasting change in your life, the lives of those you love, those you lead and those you serve. Always open to feedback about your experience. Let’s have some fun and make some changes!