MAY THEME: BE THE CHANGE
Mission #18: Creating a Possibility Practice – May 2
Mission #19: Asking Better Questions – May 9
Mission #20: Mantras for Making Change – May 16
Mission #21: Mindsets for Making Change – May 23
Mission #22: Make 3 Changes™: A Framework for Moving Forward – May 30
MAKE 3 CHANGES™ MONDAY MISSION #21: Mindsets for Making Change
If you’ve been following me for any length of time it will come as no surprise to you that I believe in first addressing the thoughts, beliefs and attitudes you have about any of the challenges and opportunities you face.
For the most part, you are a creature of habit. You like what you like the way you like it. Change often triggers our fears and provokes resistance.
The key to moving forward during times of change lies firmly in YOUR hands, or more correctly, in YOUR MINDset.
At the outset of all of the sessions I lead, I provide a list of invitations to the group.
- Be Curious, Not Critical
- Assume Positive Intent
- Be Fully Present
- Be Generous
- Ask for what you need
- Be prepared to…
- Be willing to…
I invest at least 20 to 30 minutes at the beginning of a session to create an environment that is more conducive to learning, to presence, to insights and breakthroughs in thinking and being.
Why would I take such precious and valuable real estate to do this? Because when I don’t, I am dealing with distractions and resistance and don’t have nearly the same engagement. For years I did it the way I was taught to do it – here’s the agenda, here’s the rules, here’s the information. When I made this shift and began by helping participants get into a fertile and open mindset, I saw incredible changes in what they were gaining from the experience and what they were sharing with each other.
Highly recommend this practice! It’s a signature feature of any Whitney Bishop Experience. ☺
Mindset #1: Be Curious, Not Critical.
Being curious allows you to stay open. When you are critical, you have a closed mindset. Curious allows solutions, ideas and new possibilities. Critical assumes many things, asserts its certainty, rebuffs any ideas or thoughts that are in conflict with this certainty.
Affirmation/Mantra: I am curious about this, not critical.
Mindset #2: Assume Positive Intent.
Most people are not out to get you. I always get a good chuckle from folks when I ask if any of them showed up with the express intent of disrupting my session or making those of us in the room miserable. Assuming positive intent of yourself, of others, keeps you open. Give people permission to show up differently for you. This mindset, just like the first one, shows up on your face and in your body language, in your tone and your language more than you might think.
Affirmation/Mantra: I assume positive intent and approach my conversations, interactions and thoughts with this in mind.
Mindset #3: Be Accountable.
The buck stops with you. You are accountable for your own actions, choices, words and behaviors. You cannot control what others do or say, how they respond or react. You can only control how YOU respond or react. Focus on being truly accountable for your own choices and actions, thoughts and feelings and how that impacts your behavior. When you accept responsibility for YOUR actions, you keep the focus on what YOU can control.
Affirmation/Mantra: I am responsible for my experience.
YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
Your MAKE 3 CHANGES™ Monday Mission this week is to identify which situations, people, challenges and/or opportunities instantly trigger the CURIOUS response and which ones trigger the CRITICAL response.
Step 1: Make a List. Which situations, people, challenges and/or opportunities do you meet with curiosity? Which of them are you able to easily assume positive intent about? In which of them do you find it easy to own your role, your impact, your results?
Step 2: Make another list. Which situations, people, challenges and/or opportunities do you meet with a closed mindset? A critical mindset? In which of them are you NOT easily able to assume positive intent? In which of them do you find it easy to blame or make excuses relative to your role, your impact and your results? “It was their fault.” “They didn’t give me the info I needed.” They always…”
Step 3: Get Curious. What do you notice? Where are your trouble spots? The places where you don’t show up in an open or curious way? How is that serving you? How could you turn that around? What do you need to do to be able to move forward in those situations, relationships, opportunities?
Many of my clients post these mindsets, or the one that resonates with them the most, in prominent places in their offices, their homes or their planners. I love a good visual cue or reminder to reset and get my mind right for the task at hand.
Need a little help thinking and working through this Monday’s Mission? GREAT! Send me an email and let me know how I can help. Want to schedule a call? Use the link below to set something up.
Want me to come inspire a group or team you are part of? GREAT! Let’s talk about that. I have openings in June, September and October to come to your event or workplace to deliver a customized program designed to help you and your team address the changes already happening or that you’re interested in making.
My specialty is helping others move forward during times of change, challenge and opportunity. I’d love to be of service. Find a time that works for you by clicking here. Choose the Clarity Conversation Option and let’s talk about it!
What is Make 3 Changes™?
Make 3 Changes™ is a framework designed to help leaders move forward during times of change, challenge and opportunity. For more information about the Make 3 Changes™ framework and how you can use it to navigate changes in your world with more clarity, confidence and commitment, email email@example.com.
What are the Make 3 Changes™ Monday Missions?
These weekly missions are designed to get you thinking differently about various aspects of your life. Each month will feature several missions within a theme, helping you to build awareness, create alignment and take action. It is my hope they provide you with the tools you need to create positive and lasting change in your life, the lives of those you love, those you lead and those you serve. Always open to feedback about your experience. Let’s have some fun and make some changes!